Three Words to Outclass Your Ex

Bumping into an ex can be cause for a major meltdown, especially if he's with his new girlfriend and you haven't washed your hair. But there's still a way you can emerge with dignity intact. The phrase “Are you well?” is the perfect thing to say to be polite, friendly, and just a tad emotionally distant. These words are super-effective in an awkward moment because it shows you care, without inviting your ex to open up. This lets your ex off the hook if he can't handle the moment.

girl thinking of ex-boyfriend. NO!

Here is how slapping on a smile and dropping some kind words can work in a host of sticky ex BF situations: 


You bang into your ex when you are in sweats and have greasy hair. 


Do Keep it brief. Say "Hi. Nice to see you. I just finished working out. Hope all is well with you. Take care!” Then keep walking. 

Don’t Mention how drab you look. Instead focus on the fact that it's a beautiful day, or that he caught you in the best mood because of X. Most importantly, smile. That way he's much more likely to notice your friendly grin than your unwashed hair. 

You see your ex at the cinema with his new GF. 


Do Be generous. Mention that you're happy that he's found somebody special. If you're still too tender to get into it, polite small talk will do. Try: "Hello. Nice to meet you. I hear this movie is great. I'm really excited to see it. Now I need to go and find my seats/my friends." 
Don't Be nosey. What you want to avoid are questions about the relationship. Don't ask how long they've been dating or if she's met his parents. You'll come off as competitive if you start prying. 

You meet your ex while you are on a first date with a new guy. 


Do Look happy. You don't want to make it seem as though you're not having a good time or would rather be in his company. 

Don’t Give labels. Don't give either your ex or your new boyfriend a title when you introduce them, just use first names. And don't mention any inside jokes the two of you used to have that will make your new date feel like an outsider. 

Your ex comes round to your apartment to collect his belongings. 


Do Be ready. Have his things compiled before he comes. That way, the only thing you have to say is, "Here are your things. Is it all there?" 

Don't Be alone. Have a friend or family member with you to help cushion the blow of seeing him. If it's too uncomfortable, leave his things outside your door and you won't have to speak with him at all. 

You meet your ex's parents for the first time since the break-up. 


Do Mention how well you're doing. Remember that no matter how close you were to his parents, they are still his parents. Say hello and tell them about how fabulous your life is, but do not bring up your ex. 

Don't Be dramatic. If you know that you miss seeing them, then do so without sounding like you're grief- stricken. Don't be rude, but don't feel that you have to ham it up with them. Just be cordial and sincere. 

You see your ex's friends after the split. 


Do Be bright and breezy. Ask his friends how they are and what they've been up to. Then mention the highlights in your life these days — without sounding like you're bragging or trying to come across as “so over him”. When you're giving off positive energy and at your most likable, they'll be left questioning what could've gone wrong with such a wonderful girl. 

Don't Bitch about your ex. Remember they are his spies. Anything you say about your ex is going to get back to him, so try to avoid dissing him. Any mention of your ex is likely to be misconstrued. Be polite, short and sweet. Introduce anyone you're with to them, and let them know it's nice to see them, then exit! 

10 Most Common Sex Injuries

This is the list of most common sex injuries. How much have you experienced?


a girl tied up a man on bed

BACK AND NECK STRAINS 


Caused by: falling off the bed or down stairs. 
Avoid by: holding on tighter and changing your sex position slowly. Also, avoid having sex on unstable furniture such as an ironing board —which, experts say, is surprisingly common! 

BRUISES AND SCRATCHES 


Caused by: spanking or being tied up during bondage. 
Avoid by: not sticking duct tape straight onto skin, using handcuffs with fur covers and only spanking or getting spanked on padded areas such as the buttocks. 

CARPET/FRICTION BURNS 


Caused by: impatient lovers who can't make it to the bed and end up having sex on the floor/on the couch/against a curtain/on the grass. 
Avoid by: putting down a top, towel or cushion before getting, stuck in. 

CHAFFED NIPPLE 


Caused by: hiring, clamping and other types of nipple stimulation. 
Avoid by: telling your lover to be more gentle— unless you're actually after a little pain, in which case grin and hear it, baby! 


BRUISED AND STRAINED MUSCLES 


Caused by: vigorous and lengthy sex sessions, or trying out a complicated position. 
Avoid by: stretching properly beforehand, say experts. 

LOST FOREIGN OBJECTS IN THE VAGINA OR ANUS 


Caused by: objects other than sex toys being inserted into orifices. 
Avoid by: Just be careful. 

PENILE FRACTURES 


Caused by: missing a thrust and hitting something solid. 
Avoid by: slowing down his pace. 

ALLERGIC REACTIONS 


Caused (mostly) by: a reaction to lubricant or latex condoms. 
Avoid by: using latex-free condoms or resting the lube on your arm first. 

RED AND SWOLLEN EYES 


Caused by: your partner ejaculating into your eye. 
Avoid by: asking him to improve his aim. 

INSECT BITES 


Caused by: exposure to an insect or several) while romping in the great outdoors. 
Avoid by: taking a good, long look at where you're putting down your naked derriere.

Don’t Flake Out Your Hair

Frustrated with dry, brittle hair? Dousing it with moisturiser and hair food won't help. The remedy is going back to the root of the problem. Read on to find out how scalpcare is haircare. 

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PROBLEM: Over The Top relaxing 

It's common practice to tame hard-to-manage hair with regular relaxing but, if done incorrectly, it can damage the hair structure. Relaxers are made from extremely alkaline chemicals. 

SOLUTION 

Make sure you get regular treatments and use a good neutralising shampoo to return your hair to its natural pH after you relax it. 

PROBLEM: Hot styling 

Flatirons, hairdryers and other heat- styling products can do serious damage to hair if used excessively and without the proper barrier products. A flatiron, for instance, can raise hair temperature to 200°C — way past the point where essential proteins start destructing. If your hair 'smokes' on contact with the appliance, it's too hot. 

SOLUTION 

Use the lowest heat possible when styling your hair and make sure that you use a heat-protective serum to minimise damage. 

PROBLEM: Severe, attachments 

When planted or woven incorrectly, weaves and braids can be one of the biggest contributors towards problem hair and scalp disorders. Generally, women neglect the hair underneath their attachments, meaning it's not kept nourished and healthy. 

SOLUTION 

Weaves can be worn for between four and eight weeks with a treatment every fortnight. while a dry scalp treatment is recommended for nourishment. Braids and cornrows should last between two and six weeks, and hair should be given a pause in between to avoid a breakage. 

PROBLEM: Misdiagnosis 

One of the biggest dry-hair-and-scalp culprits is using products that are too harsh or aren't intended for ethnic hair. this Can use not only the hair and scalp to dry out, but could even lead to scalp psoriasis — a skin condition that causes severe flaking. 

SOLUTION 

Products with ingredients such as almond milk, aloe vera, and coconut and jojoba oils are always a good bet, as are most natural plant-extracted mineral oils. 

There nothing worse than a flaky scalp, so focus on that and not on the dry condition of your hair and you’ll fix both problems at once. 

Six Steps to Choose Haircut

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Lipstick smudges, mascara runs, clothes crease and nail polish chips, but a spectacular haircut won't let you down. It won't just look perfect when you walk out of the salon — it will be easy to style yourself each day. Here's how to ensure a fab cut with every salon visit. 

A spectacular cut is your stealth bomber: effective, reliable, weather-prof and as maddeningly evasive. Follow these steps to nail it with military precision. 

1. Identify your target

What sort of haircut do you want, and will it suit you? 

2. Do a research

Book a one-on-one consultation with a stylist to discuss your ideas. Ask about hair texture and the time you'd need to maintain the style. To gauge the general trend of the salon, observe other stylists and clients as they leave. 

3. Dry-run it first

See if you feel at ease with the stylist. It's okay not to go through with the cut if you don't like the vibe. 

4.Gather intelligence

Checks magazines for hair trends and taking the pics along — stylists are visual people. Also mention facial features you're insecure about and where you prefer your parting. 

5.Collateral damage?

Have a discussion about how much heat styling and product the cut will need. Make a note of the products and in-salon treatments recommended, then assess what your budget allows. 

Don't feel under pressure to buy the recommended products, which can double the bill for your cut. And if you see your stylist making extra snips you didn't ask for, rather speak out than wait till the end when the damage is done. 

6. Follow-up strategy

A trim every six to eight weeks will maintain your cut and the health of your hair. Even if you want to grow out a cut, regular trims are essential. This way you're guiding your hair into a new shape while avoiding that awkward stage.

Perfect Cover in Less Than 5 Minutes

Pigmentation marks on your face can be a major confidence zapper. Here’s how to cover them tip pronto. The key to covering up pigmentation is in the application. You don't want to look like you're covering up imperfections, but rather that you're enhancing your natural complexion. Follow these steps to the perfect cover-up:

1. Get your goods ready

Have your foundation, concealer and powder ready. Your foundation should match the predominant colour of your face. Find natural light and a big-enough mirror.

2. Warm things up

Warm foundation on the back of a clean hand - in I blend more easily and look natural.

3. Measure your amount

Don't use too much. Tip: once you've swept a finger through the foundation, you should still be able to see your fingerprint in it. If you can't, you're applying too.

4. Zone in

Use foundation only where it is needed. If you feel you need to apply more, do this by building coverage with additional thin layers in problem areas. Stop between layers and step back to survey the overall effect from a distance. You may not need as much coverage as you initially thought.

perfect makeup beautiful girls
 

5. Even it out

If there's a major contrast between skin colours, apply a lighter concealer to the darkened areas before using foundation. Pat, never rub, the concealer to blend it in. Then continue with the foundation, parting it over the concealer to avoid rubbing it off.

6. Powder to perfection

Tap powder into the palm of your hand, then use two or three fingers to rub and warm it in your palm. Press and gently smooth the powder onto your face. You're done!

DISCOLORATION DO'S AND DON'TS


Prevention is better than cure, but it's impossible to avoid a pimple or injury that could lead to pigmentation. Here are tips for you:

Don’t scratch. Avoid picking at bites or pimples, as this will cause trauma.
Do protect. U50 an 5PF of 50 daily and reapply regularly to prevent further pigmentation of a spot, scar or scratch.

Don’t scrub. A hard, granular exfoliator can scratch your skin and wound the area surrounding existing pimples, causing infection to spread.
Do use alpha-hydroxy acids (AHAs). An AHA-based face cream offers gentle daily exfoliation, useful in promoting skin regeneration.

Don't use peels, as these cause major injury to the skin. If you're going to use lasers and peels, ensure this is done under strict guidance.
Do always insist on a spot test to see whether the final outcome is worth the peel procedure. Newer peels are adapted to darker skins, but still insist on a patch test.

Friends for Life

Flick back through your life to those times when you and a soon-to-be best friend just 'clicked'. Perhaps it was the guy in the school who pointed out the tomato stuck between your teeth, or the colleague who showed you the precise spot to hit the photocopier to get it to print on the first day of your new job. Such small, seemingly insignificant moments can lead to big- time friendships. And while some last, others don't — but that says experts, doesn't make them any less fulfilling.

school girl forever friends


We tend to believe that friendships should last forever and feel bad when we lose touch, but the fact is that, as we grow and our lives change, friends will not all develops in the same way. We gravitate towards those we can relate to in certain circumstances. This makes it natural and even healthy to drop some friends and adopt others. 


Here's what you can expect from your friendships during key lift stages. 

THE SINGLE STUDENT 


YOUR CIRCLE 
At university and college you're thrown together with a large number of people. And because you're grouped by age and subject choices, you're well matched in terms of common interests, so it's easier to make friends than at any other period. 

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS 
This is a highly social time. At this stage, diversity among the people you mix with presents more choices for the direction you might take in your own life. Cultivating a wide circle exposes you to different ways of thinking, which is healthy, and social- networking sites encourage this. 

BE ALERT 
We measure ourselves against close friends and use them as role models, so moving with the right set is vital. Are they in tune with your values, respectful and genuinely caring? 

THE SINGLE CAREER WOMAN 


YOUR CIRCLE 
You put friends on the back burner when you focus on your work. If you do this too single-mindedly, all but your close friends can fall away, with even these relegated to occasional drinks or weekend catch-ups when you're not too tired. Pursuing career success can take all your energy. Friends not on the same page can become hard work to hold on to. 

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS 
For support and stress relief, you will often turn instead to colleagues who understand your work hours and pressures. Sharing work triumphs and concerns with colleagues is invaluable. 

BE ALERT 
Be circumspect in what you divulge — it could come back to haunt you if one of you is promoted or you fall our. While fulfilling, these friendships are often based as much on convenience as on mutual understanding. They may not last if either of you leaves the company. Keep this in mind before cancelling catch-up drinks with your oldest and closest friend.

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THE CAREER WOMAN WITH A PARTNER 


YOUR CIRCLE 
Add a live-in partner to a demanding career, and you will have even less time and attention for friends. But the dose ones remain hugely important — you run your guy past them and want their approval. When you socialise with them it's for lunch or a drink that won't ear into alone time with your guy, and you make up for that by connecting with them on social media. 

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS 
You're quick to turn to your best friends if your relationship hits rocky patches. By now you've weathered many storms with them and know they are your real support system, so you don't need to spend every moment with them or constantly call or text them as you did when you were a student. 

BE ALERT 
It's easy to become so wrapped up in your partner's life and friends that you start to lose touch with your own. Be particularly wary if your partner discourages contact with them — he may be controlling, a warning sign of emotional and other abuse. 

THE WIFE AND NEW MOM 


YOUR CIRCLE 
Your friendship circle is severely edited by motherhood. It's an inward-looking time when everything revolves around the newcomer. Friends in the same situation become vital — their advice and shared experiences provide guidelines. But single friends and those without children bring a healthy balance to your life. 

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS 
Child-free friends who make the effort to fit into your new life are cherished. They're trusted confidantes with whom you can share the things that matter most to you, and can be counted on. 

BE ALERT 
Make time for single friends and talk about their interests, or you could lose them. Be sensitive that too much baby talk can bore some and hurt others not in stable relationships who hear the ticking of their own biological clock.

Smart Way to Fights Cellulite

Newsflash: dieting and hardcore exercise won't blitz your cellulite. Try this dimple-busting plan, so is your smoothest bottom ever. 

4 Months to Go 


Eat Fat 

Cutting fat from your diet to lose inches off your thighs is plain silly. Not only will you feel hungry all the time, but the fatty acids in natural, unprocessed sources of fat actually help to process fat from the body. Just stick to good fat (found in nuts, fish, plant oil and avocados) and avoid hard, white fat or meat and anything deep-fried or with 'hydrogenated' on the label. 

The real enemy is 'diet' foods (full of additives or sugar) and CRAP (Caffeine, Refined sugar, Alcohol and Processed foods). Cellulite is toxic fat, and these foods flood the body with toxins and fat-storing hormones, depleting it of essential nutrients, so they're a sure-fire route to a lumpy bottom. Eat home-cooked meals and natural, unprocessed foods. Plus, avoid preserved foods or anything that has added sugar, fake flavors or unfamiliar ingredients. 

Chill Out 

Stress gives you love handles and saddlebags; it sends fight-or-flight hormones racing around your body, and without a sabre toothed tiger to slay (your stress is more likely due to deadlines and credit-card payments), these hormones are stored as fat. So make it your business to relax more. Get immersed in a hobby, go for long walks, get a dog (stroking one lowers your blood pressure—fact), and replace jitter-inducing junk food, fizzy drinks and muffins with stress-busting berries, green veggies, and turkey. 

3 Months to go

slim beautiful girl

 

Exercise 

If you exercise like a demon or stress yourself out to fit in your sessions, you risk getting podgy from stress hormones you produce. That doesn't mean exercises isn’t essential for fighting cellulite— just limits your sessions to three a week, and replace one cardio session with yoga or Pilates to calm your system and stretch your muscles. Squats and lunges are still the best moves for a killer bum and thighs. 

Feed Your Skin 

If skin gets slack and thin, cellulite shows up more. So moisturise with creams full of collage-boosting ingredients, using firm, upward strokes. You can use omega oils; also look for peptides and plant butters. 

2 Months to Go 


Invest in the Latest Treatments 

These are all about breaking up the fatty, fibrous clumps under your skin, without any scalpels or needles. 

RADIO FREQUENCY 
WHAT IS IT: It uses radio frequency waves to heat up the water in your cells. This boosts their metabolic function—i.e., their fat-burning, and collagen-producing ability. It's also available in combination with ultrasonic therapy, which helps in reducing obstinate fat and evens out your skin's texture. 

HOW IT FEELS: Your bumpy bits are massaged firmly with a smooth paddle that can feel from tepid to hot. 

BEST FOR: Superficial, soft cellulite and loose skin. It'll improve its texture and tone, and have a tightening effect. 

‘X-WAVE' ACOUSTIC WAVE THERAPY 
WHAt IT IS: This is a very promising treatment that uses sound waves to penetrate deep into the cells and break up the cellulite under the skin. So it literally shakes loose fatty, fibrous clumps of cellulite. 

HO IT FEFLS: Hardcore vibration pummeling your saddlebags. There's a little muscle- achy soreness involved, but it's not really painful. 

BEST FOR: Thick, lumpy fat deposits that feel a little hard when you squeeze them. Once broken up, the cells get redistributed in a much smoother 'formation', making the skin on the surface look less pitted. 

NEEDLE-FREE MESOTHERAPY 
WHAT IT IS : It works by promoting the body's circulatory system, and reduces cellulite formation by enhancing blood and lymph circulation. Active ingredients like vitamins, minerals and homeopathic medicines are delivered deeper into the skin using aquapheresis. 

HOW IT FEELS: Almost painless 

BEST FOR: It's most helpful for softer cellulite. The effect lasts from a few weeks up till a couple of months before the next sitting is required.

Take a Supplement 

Some powerful nutrients are proven to help the body burn fat and keep skin plump and healthy. Look for Vitamin C, which helps build collagen. One kiwi or a cup of strawberries a day should do the trick. While Vitamin E helps improve circulation, Vitamin A reduces free radicals in the body. Food rich in calcium and low in salt and sugar works best in improving and preventing cellulite. 


6 Week to go

girls relax at spa

 

Go For a Massage 

Massaging your legs can smooth and reshape them. The massages are a mix of deep-tissue, lymphatic and 'cupping' techniques that improve blood circulation and activate lymph drainage leaving your thighs slimmer. 

Cellulite caused by water retention, which feels almost like jelly, will show the most dramatic improvement. But the firmer cellulite caused by fat clumps or hardened skin fibres can be minimised too. Go for hour-long deep-tissue massages on the legs only with your therapist using upward movements to boost circulation and toxin drainage. Six sessions will make skin look far less cottage- cheesy. Dry body-brushing is also surprisingly effective. Do it for a minute every day pre-shower, using firm strokes towards your heart. It'll speed up your body's detox process and make dimples look airbrushed. 

Try a Cellulite Cream 

No beauty editor has ever used a cream that made her cellulite vanish entirely. Fact. But using a good one for four to six weeks will make it less noticeable if it's quite light. High levels of caffeine and botanical extracts of algae, horse chestnut, and rosemary rev up skin's micro-circulation and the metabolism of the fat cells underneath it. 

1 Week to Go 


Have an Incredible Shrinking Bath.

Use Epsom-salt baths (from the chemist), the magnesium in them drains toxins fast and helps boost digestion.

Change Your Life in 3 Minutes

A minute can be as powerful as an hour, if only you use it well. We tell you how.

GET SMARTER


Research reveals that solving Crossword puzzles stimulates the brain, improves memory and ups your vocab. Also, it distracts the mind from problems and challenges the brain in a non-stressful way. Lesson: spend a couple of minutes a day working a puzzle. 

BE AN ARTIST


A study published in Applied Cognitive Psychology, Southern England showed that people who doodled retained more information than those who didn't. (Especially at boring conferences and seminars.) 

CHECK YOUR BALANCE


Spending a few minutes balancing your checkbook, noting expenses, and organising bills, will help you handle expenses, plan better, and also prepare for future tax work. Doing it in small installments also makes it a lot less annoying. 

BREW


In a recent study, University College, London, researchers noted that drinking a cup of tea, four to six times a day reduces stress hormone levels in your body. Here's a tip to brew it perfectly—leave the bag the water for at least two minutes, and keep the cup covered while the tea is brewing.



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HYDRATE


Dehydration is one of the key reasons of fatigue. If you drink less than eight glasses of water a day, you may be sluggish. Use every free minute to drink as much water as possible. Try it for a week and watch your general energy levels rise. 

FLOSS AWAY


Dentists keep saying it, and we'll say it again: flossing removes bacteria, prevents gum disease and the loss of teeth. Spent a minute or two each day to remove the bacteria between your teeth. 

DE-CLUTTER


Take the time to clear your drawers of old receipts, papers and trash you've been collecting over the months. Simplifying your life in any way can help on find more balance. 

LAUGH


Scientists the effects of laughter and exercise are quite similar. You may not have time for a full-fledged cardio session, but you can take out three minutes to watch a funny clip on YouTube. 

BREATHE


Breathing correctly can cure anxiety. The right way to do it: stand up, stretch and take a couple of deep breaths. Stretch your arms, back, legs, and neck. Take a deep breath through your nose, hold it, and let it out slowly and forcefully. Repeat several times 

EAT A FRUIT


The USDA (United States Dept. of Agriculture) recommends two fruits a day to help meet your nutritional requirements. Apples are your best bet—they are rich in anti-oxidants, Vitamin C. Eat them with their skin on for maximum results. 

PRIORITISE


Make morning time planning time. Set goals, write them down and place them where you'll see them all day. It will give you a sense of control and empowerment. 

INDULGE


Not too much, but if you're going to have some candy, pick chocolate. Research reveals that we get an endorphin buzz from chocolate and an energy boost from the slight bit of caffeine in it. You'll agree, it’s a delicious way to use spare time. 

LEARN A WORD


Sign up for a website that will deliver a new word to your inbox every day, then spend a couple of minutes learning it. In a month, you'll have a brand new, impressive vocabulary. 


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REFRESH


Sitting in the same position for hours can be exhausting. Roll up and down on your toes. This stimulates your circulatory system, and delivers oxygen and glucose throughout your body. 

SING


Studies in music therapy show that singing promotes wellness, manages stress, and improves communication. Most songs last about three minutes, so sing your favourite out loud. 

MAKE A CALL


Lost touch with people? Make a short call to one person every day, just to say hi—it could be an old friend from college, an ex-colleague, or someone you'd like to network with. Repeat that call after one month. 

CHANGE OF SCENE


Browse the Internet to find a soothing natural scene as your desktop background. Studies conducted by the University of Washington have reaffirmed nature's restorative powers and capability to reduce stress. 

LOOK AWAY


Research has found out that taking visual breaks can relieve sore eyes. Every two hours or so, look at an object 20 feet away for a few seconds. This will relax your eye muscles, instantly. 

FILTER


Creating e-mail filters will help you keep your inbox free from unwanted mails. Make separate folders so that the next time you are searching for a super important e-mail, you won't waste any time locating it. 

UPDATE YOUR RESUME


Keeping your resume up-to-date means when a great job opportunity comes your way, you won't be rushing to add stuff.

Make Him Crave You All Day Long

Inspiring your guy to focus on a future tryst with you causes him to want you more....and more....and more. Find out why waiting can and should be the hardest part for him. 

Could there actually be perks to denying a guy salacious activities? It turns out that using wait-for-it strategy can make men way hornier—a technique called anticipatory eroticism: When you let a man know about the bedroom bliss in his future, he starts imagining the magic right then, which causes him to want you more. That added lust factor makes the sex hotter by the time you hit the sheets, which amps up its addictive qualities. Use these how-tos and he'll never get enough of you. 

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Once isn't enough

Think about how you feel when you have a Friday night reservation at your lave restaurant. You spend all week salivating at the mere thought of digging in, so by the time the waiter puts your food in front of you, you're ready to inhale it. That want-it, need-it, have-to-have-it effect is all about anticipation. 

Whenever you first experience something awesome, your amygdala—which is the reward center of your brain where you register both pleasure and addiction—lights up. Once your brain registers this type of pleasure, it remembers it and wants to experience that category again. 

Boost the Build -Up

One way to get your guy pumped to jump you is literally to deny him sex a period of time. If you continue to indulge in the same pleasure repeatedly, your amygdala becomes desensitised to it—a process called habituation—so not having something makes it sweeter when you do. 

Try holding out on sex for one week but letting him know on Monday that you plan on blowing his mind on Saturday. Then do little things during the week to get him excited, like texting him a pie of you in your undies or leaving a bag at his place with your bra peeking out. 

Another option: find a few new sex moves and tell your guy you can't wait to buy them on your upcoming one-year anniversary. He already loves doing it with you, so that added 'What's it going to be?' mystery will take his build-up—to new heights!

5 Ways to Break In a Brand New Pair of Shoes

women with new shoes

These easy tricks will make them as comfy as slippers!


1. Do it slowly: Take them to work, slip them on while sitting at your desk for an hour or so. If they're super-tight, walk around in them wearing slightly damp socks. Might sound strange, but the moisture will soften and stretch them out.

2. Roughen them up: Use a small piece of sandpaper to scuff up the bottom of the shoe. This will help prevent slipperiness on certain surfaces.

3. If they pinch: Place some moleskin on the areas of the feet where the shoes are pinching. Then soak your feet, to help expand the moleskin. Put the shoes back on and wear them as often as possible.

4. Bend, and stretch: To loosen the shoes, bend them upwards and downwards (if the shoe permits) a few times. Then, use a hair dryer to heat-blast for two to three minutes and repeat.

5. To avoid blisters: Spray your feet with a deodorant. It sticks to your feet and stops shoes from rubbing against your skin and forming blisters.

Ways to Get Over a Bad Day

Boss being a beast? New BE backed out of a date? Whatever put you into a funk, these easy strategies from top psychologists will help you to get over a bad day.

TACTIC #1 Just Leave

Sometimes, the quickest way to turn a terrible day around is just to get up and leave. It can be hard to shake bad feelings because there could be reminders everywhere of what set you off. Meaning, if you're feeling pissy due to your &enemy's snide comments, staying at the party where you'll hear more of the same isn't going to help. Instead, take a walk outside or head to a coffee shop. Taking in different sights can defuse your grumpy disposition; because you're busy processing your new location rather than dwelling on what was wrong in the old one.

TACTIC #2 Fake It

Numerous studies have shown that just pretending to be in a better mood can actually put you in one. When you smile, even if it's not genuine it sends happiness signals to your brain and makes you feel better. And look in the mirror while you do it it’ll shoot another indicator to your brain that you're happy. 

TACTIC #3 Veg Out

A recent study found that a bad mood can get worse if someone's mind is allowed to wander. But if the person is distracted, they start to feel better. A juicy TV show can distract you. When you become wrapped up in a show, your mind is focused on someone else's life and can't dwell on yours. Just be careful what you pick. Avoid the news or any sort of crime drama. When you're already having a dark moment, watching this kind of thing can sink you deeper. So choose something light that also holds your attention.

TACTIC #4 Throw a Punch

Exercising releases endorphins that work quickly to make you more joyful. But don't just hop on a treadmill, try a slightly aggressive activity. Doing something that makes you grunt will help you work through your frustration. 

how to get over a bad day

TACTIC #5 Wear Lipstick

Vibrant red, hot pink, whatever vivid hue you choose, wearing fun lipstick can do wonders. The reason: When you feel good about your appearance, it can make you feel better about other areas in your life. A fabulous way to get over a bad day isn’t it? 

TACTIC #6 Eat that Cupcake

If your day has been particularly hellish, you need a make-good. Treat yourself to something it nit feels indulgent, but it should be something you really love—like a fancy baked good or buttery popcorn. When you pamper yourself, it's hard to stay totally grumpy. Just make sure you don't scarf a dozen cupcakes or drink an entire bottle of wine. Over-indulgence can have the opposite effect. Because you'll now be feeling either sickly full or guilty about all those extra calories. 

TACTIC #7 Have a Mini Fit

A good venting session works, but who you vent to and how you do it is crucial. Choose a pal who's a great listener. But before you start, ask your friend to stop you when it's been 15 minutes. Any longer, and you'll start focusing on the negative stuff. 

TACTIC #8 Get Lazy

A sticky mood can send you into frenzy—suddenly, you think getting everything done on your to-do list will make you feel better. But that can just make things worse. If you try to tackle a tonne, it can bring you down more. Instead, pick a task that is easy to accomplish (like organising your lipstick drawer) but that also has noticeable results. Sick of your messy apartment? Choose one little thing to do—like wipe down all your mirrors. 

THE LAST THING YOU WANNA HEAR

If someone utters these words to you when you're obviously in a foul mood, like “Hi there. It’s the insurance guy calling again...” or “Ummmm, are you PMSing or what?” or “Is that you’re wearing?” or “Wow! You’ve clearly stopped working out!” or “You look tired.” Or even “Sorry, we just ran out of coffee. Water?” you have our permission to bitch-slap them. Good luck with this get over a bad day Trick!

The Myth of Anti-ageing Cream

Now let's talk about the myth of anti-ageing cream. Jars of lotions, magic potions, grandma's advice, best friend's advice; you’ll do it all or rather, you've done it all. The threat of the signs of ageing showing up on skin has women shrouding their forehead with worry Lines much before the lines of ageing really appear. To top it off, the media constantly plays up picture-perfect images of faces that seem to have escaped the clutches of time. Even though your desire to be beautiful has nothing with adorning the 70mm space but it's an intrinsically personal desire. To wear your skin at its best every day or to took great even without a special occasion does wonders to how you feel about yourself, doesn't it?

beautiful girl with anti-ageing cream

Myth #1

“I think the right time to start using an anti-aging cream is after 30.”

TRUTH: Ageing starts as early as 25. Most women in their twenties believe that wrinkles can’t happen to them when they are so young. So, anti-aging creams don’t feature in their typical daily skincare routine. But on a closer look you’ll realize that fine lines begin to appear in your twenties, which will eventually cause wrinkles.

Myth #2

“Ageing is a natural processes; I can’t prevent my skin from ageing.”

TRUTH: The processes of ageing cannot be alerted but can be delayed by using the right product best suited for your skin. The earlier you start using anti-ageing products as a preventive measure, the slower your skin will age.

MYTH #3 

“I work out and eat well; I don’t need an anti-ageing cream”

TRUTH: Regular exercise and a good diet are essential for the holistic health of your skin but using an anti-ageing product is essential too. Anti-ageing products increase the turnover of skin cells on your skin's surface. By boosting the production of the youth factories of your skin, makes it taut and helps it look younger.

MYTH #4

“Only women with dry skin have to worry about wrinkles.”

TRUTH: Wrinkles don't necessarily occur on dry skin. They're caused by sun as well as by stress, Lifestyle habits and genetics. There is no question your skin looks more wrinkled when it's dry, but wrinkles will not go away completely no matter how much of basic moisturizer you apply. Moisturizers are great for making dry skin Look better, but it takes far more to make your skin look and act younger.

MYTH #5

“I have oily skin so I’ll never get wrinkles and that’s why I don’t need anti-ageing cream.”

TRUTH: Of course you need an anti-ageing cream! Just because your skin is oily doesn't mean it doesn't respond to environmental factors like sun exposure and pollution. If you have oily skin and fear-ant ageing creams might cause break-outs.

MYTH #6

“Once you find products that suit your skin, never change them.”

TRUTH: The truth of the matter is skin types are dynamic and often keep changing. Do not blindly continue the same product even for the anti-ageing cream; check your skin type especially during seasonal changes to avoid skin problems.

The Walker's Workout

Do the stretches before and after your walk, as noted. Complete the strength moves two or three times a week on nonconsecutive days.

Shin Stretch


shin-stretch

BEFORE YOU WALK

Standing with feet flat, slowly roll up onto toes and hold for a count of two. Then lower heels and roll onto outsides of feet (so the soles of your shoes are facing each other, as shown) for two counts. Returning to starting position, roll onto heels for two counts so your toes are in the air. Lower toes to finish. You may need to hold on to something for balance. Do this series 10 times.

Hip and Calf Stretch


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AFTER YOU WALK

Place your [left foot two to three feet in front of your right, toes pointing forward. Bend your left knee until it's above your ankle. Keep your right leg straight, heel on the ground. Don't arch your back. You should feel a stretch in your right calf and the front of your right hip. For a deeper stretch, tuck your tailbone under slightly. Hold for 30 seconds and switch sides. Repeat as needed.

Squat


squat

TARGETS BUTT, THIGH AND CALF MUSCLES

Stand with a light resistance band or tube tied around calves, feet hip-width apart. Step right foot six to 12 inches out to the side. Bend hips and knees and sit back. As you stand, step left foot in toward right. Repeat, stepping again to the right and then twice more to the left. Do the sequence two to four times. (If you haven't done squats before, start without the band.)

Side Plank


side-plank

TARGETS CORE MUSCLES

Lie on left side and prop yourself up on left elbow, right hand on hip. Stack legs one on top of the other, feet flexed. Press down on left arm and feet, contract abs and lift left hip off the floor. Hold for 10 to 30 seconds and lower. Repeat on right side. Alternate the side you start on for each workout. As you become stronger, switch sides without lowering hip to the floor.

The Walking-Off-Weight Breakthrough

Walking is often pigeonholed as a low-to moderate-intensity workout. And for good reason: Even those who make a real effort rarely get their internal speedometer above 4 mph. But that doesn't have to be the case. If you can improve your game by only a few tenths of a mile, walking can become an intense calorie-torching exercise. According to a 2006 study in the British Journal of Sports Medicine, walkers in their fifties burn 32 percent more calories when they adjust their speed from 4.1 to 4.6 mph compared with only a 25 percent boost from 3.6 to 4.1 mph.

walk for your health


The crucial dividing line is 4 mph. moving from 4 to 4.2 mph increases calorie expenditure more than changing from 3.8 to 4 miles, and going from 4.2 to 4.4 burns even more calories for the increment. Anything you get above 4 mph is going to be a big win, and it's a bigger win for each additional tenth you can add.

But are you capable of walking 4.5, 5 or even 6 mph? Absolutely, and you don't have to be especially fit to do it. However, changing your pace does require effort on your part. To improve your odds of success, follow these special three-step program: 

STEPS 1 WALK THIS WAY

By changing your form slightly, you can move quickly in an efficient manner that feels more comfortable than simply doing what you normally do, only faster.

» MAINTAIN AN UPRIGHT POSTURE 

Gently contract your abdominal muscles to keep your pelvis neutral and your lower back from arching excessively. And keep your eyes on the horizon: By looking forward, you bring your chin level with the ground, which helps keep your shoulders back and your chest open. This form facilitates fuller breathing and helps prevent unnecessary stress on your upper body.

» SWING YOUR ARMS FASTER 

Bend your elbows 90 degrees, holding your arms in at your sides (don't swing them across your body or wing them out to the sides). Your legs will automatically keep up with your arms because your nervous system synchronizes your limbs. This synchronization keeps you balanced, upright and moving forward.

» POWER YOUR WALK FROM THE BACK LEG

When you walk faster than your usual pace, the natural tendency is to take longer steps with the forward-moving leg. The problem is that the farther you reach with your front foot, the more it acts like a brake and slows you down. So you may be moving faster, but you are doing so very inefficiently.

What's better: Increase the length of your stride on the back end by making a conscious effort to roll through the ball of your foot and push off your toes, which adds power to your walk. This will extend your stride behind you by keeping your trailing leg on the ground a microsecond longer. The result is shorter but stronger and faster steps.

STEP 2 PRACTICE

To get you up to speed, pick up your pace at a doable rate: Your one-mile time gets 15 seconds faster each week. Starts you walking four days a week for a total of 180 minutes, with two sessions devoted to brisk walks and two to interval training. Interval training, which involves alternating between strenuous exertion and more moderate effort, is key because the short bursts of fast walking condition your muscles for faster speeds. You also start to train your legs to move more quickly. To do this type of exercise, walk as fast as you can for 15 to 60 seconds, then recover by walking at an easy pace for the same amount of time. Repeat that cycle for the duration of your workout. In the last two weeks, one of these interval sessions will be done on inclines. Climbing hills gets your heart rate up and builds leg strength, both of which translate into greater speed on the flats.

STEP 3 GET STRONGER

You will see results more quickly—and protect yourself from injury—if you strengthen and stretch key muscles while you're increasing your speed. (See The Walker's Workout, for exercises.) The areas include:

» QUADRICEPS (FRONT OF THE THIGHS)

This group of muscles is an important source of power when you walk. Women at an average age of 61 were able to walk up to 15 percent faster after strengthening their quads for four weeks. That's enough to move most brisk walkers into the supercharged calorie-burning zone.

» CORE AND BUTT MUSCLES 

These muscle groups also power your stride, but if they are out of shape, they can contribute to injuries. For example, weak gluteus medius muscles in your hip area—a common problem in females— allow your pelvis to tilt down, instead of remaining level, as your leg swings. This can create misalignment from your hips to your feet and can lead to knee injuries.

» HIP FLEXORS (TOPS OF YOUR THIGHS)

When these muscles are tight, they limit your range of motion and prevent you from fully extending your leg behind you for a powerful push off. In addition to the exercise on The Walker's Workout, yoga and Pilates are good workouts for targeting these muscles.

» SHINS

The tiny muscles here are responsible for keeping your feet from hitting the ground hard when you land. However, they're often weak from underuse and tend to burn out quickly, making them a major source of pain for walkers. Before and after every walk, do the series of stretching exercises on The Walker's Workout. If your shins start to scream during a workout, stop and do the series five or six times to ease the pain.